How do you handle negative responses to your weight loss journey or your appearance’

This Sunday my besties since Kindergarten organized a get together at the pool. Which is terrifying for me seeing as I’m not the kind of girl who is confident in a swim suit. I didn’t want to go at first but I’d feel horrible if I lied and said I was busy to her. So I legit told her the truth. I wasn’t comfortable in a suit and I stink at swimming since I’ve never had any lessons or anything. I know how to do backstroke and kinda doggy paddle and that’s it- really embarrassing for me. She texted me back saying she really respected my honesty and that I didn’t lie and make up an excuse. Then she told me I was cute and said 5 nice things about me. Then I felt REALLY bad about not going. At the end of the message she begged me to reconsider and that she really wishes that I’d reconsider and see her since I haven’t gotten to hand out with her for a month. So I ended up caving in. I felt kinda stupid- I don’t know why I was scared to tell her…it’s not like she would have laughed. She’s way too kind for that.

So this motivated me to reach out to my family. Starting out with my mom. We started talking about our weekend plans and such and how the weather was and all the small talk and stuff. Then I decided I was going to tell her. Just as I was about to open my mouth- “You’re going swimming’!'!’ You shouldn’t go outside in a swim suit! Your thighs are thick! And you’re not even good at swimming!”.

For the first time in my life I was going to reach out to someone completely. And that’s what I get. I really want her to support me though. We’ve never been close but… I really wanted her to understand and accept me for once. And if she couldn’t support me… at least not make hurtful and discouraging remarks.

This totally shattered my resolve to lose weight, become healthy and be happy. I really want to start again but… I keep thinking about it and I feel like a failure. Should I confront my mom again and try to tell her’ Or should I forget about it’ Any supportive advice on how to deal with situations like these would be really welcome.

Thank you so so much. I just really needed to talk to somebody about this before it broke me down any more.